Games People Play

Learn why people do the things they do, and how to deal with them

Background

Transactional Analysis

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Games

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Game — Examples

I’m only trying to help

See what you made me do

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Vindication

See what you made me do

If it weren’t for you

Debtor

I’m only trying to help you

Look how hard I’ve tried

Self-reprimanding, obtaining forgiveness

Alcoholic

Schlemiel

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Confirming worldview and stereotypes

Kick Me / Why does this always happen to me?

Debtor

Reassurance

Courtroom

If it weren’t for you

Why don’t you — Yes but

Feeling power & Control over others

Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch

Kiss Off

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Interesting observations

Complementary games

Reversible roles

Rough model

Children are impressionable

Sabotage

Antithesis: How to Stop Games

See What You Made Me Do — Vindication

Look How Hard I’m Trying — Vindication

Self-reprimanding & Obtaining Forgiveness

Why don’t you … Yes but — Reassurance

Control and Power over others

Epilogue

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I write about Code and Life philosophies. Sometimes both. | https://neilkakkar.com | Engineer @Bloomberg | Write (Code). Create. Recurse.

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